I must admit that I've never had this happen before. I've never had an ex-girlfriend with whom I had a long relationship get engaged. It brings a lot of mixed feelings. I am happy for her. Really I am, and I wish her and her fiance the best and happiest of lives. (I actually met her fiance on her second visit here-- he was married at the time and came to pick her up from my place and drive her somewhere, and we sat and talked in my kitchen while she got her bags ready. Amazingly-- or maybe not-- I barely remember him. Then again, it was 2 years ago and we met for 20 minutes.) But it's always somewhat jarring to hear that people you shared something special with have moved on. Her life is going to change. She's no longer "one of us", the divorced, the partnerless. Perhaps I'm slightly envious. And a bit sad, still, that it didn't work out for us. But she deserves it. She had a horrible first marriage, and a long divorce-- there was probably eight years between her get and her engagement.
But I guess people move on. We're all out here after the same thing- trying to make it better, trying to find love, to attain peace and happiness. And some people actually do. It gives hope to the rest of us-- us who stand and wait.
Mazal tov?
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